So far this pregnancy has been all me, me, me. And it’s obviously becoming more about the baby as he gets a little more established and consistently makes his presence known in both size and movement – plus with an upcoming due date he’s starting to become more of a real person about to enter this world (vs. just a fetus taking residence in my uterus). But this pregnancy is also about Jeremy – the other half responsible for all this baby-making. Jeremy’s also responsible for tipping my desire to have a family from feeling 50/50 unsure and torn to 51/49 in favor of baby. I’m pretty sure I wouldn’t be into taking this adventure with anyone but him.
So, I thought it’d be fun to interview him for this space about becoming a dad:
Kathleen: Everyone keeps asking me if you’re excited or how you’re feeling about becoming a dad. Say a little bit about that.
Jeremy: Yes, pretty excited. Everyone does ask that question, and the consensus among dads seems to be that it’s difficult to fully grasp the gravity of the situation until lil’ dude is fully here. And it’s not in a “something could still go wrong” sort of way; it’s just not possible in our male brains to really FEEL the difference until it’s something we can see and touch – something that shits and vomits.
K: Have you always wanted kids?
J: I’d say, yes, I’ve always wanted to SOMEDAY have kids. And I’d say today is a good day to be having kids. That time when my first wife played the ol’ “I’m pregnant” April Fool’s Day joke on me – that was not a good day to be having kids. It also turned out to not be a good day to be in that relationship.
K: What’s your biggest fear when it comes to being a parent?
J: I don’t know how to answer this question.
(A note from K: Jeremy is awesome at not worrying. Which might be one of my favorite things about him.)
K: What are you looking forward to?
J: I’m mostly looking forward to the things that start happening a year or two down the road: school, sports, and all those things that require a personality. I’ve always been a little weird about the initial, sort of larval blob state of newborns. Like, “Are you sure you want me to hold him/her/it?” I’m sure it’ll be different for my own child, but typically I only really connect with kids when they’re at least a year old.
K: What’s your favorite part about me being pregnant.
J: Right now it’s flicking the halfway-pokin’-out belly button whilst saying “ding-a ding-a ding-a”. (An activity, dear blog readers, which we’re both quite fond of.) I also enjoy the increased openness in the acknowledgment of the existence of female flatulence, even if it is blamed on the baby.
K: What’s your least favorite part?
J: HORMONES. (That said, it’s far better now than the first trimester.)
K: Any other interesting or funny observations about pregnancy you’d like to share?
J: I am now a believer in the power of hormones. I’m a little sad to be without a drinking partner, yes, whatever. But DUDE! Homegirl has NO MEMORY of those dozens of times pre-pregnancy that she proudly announced that she would still enjoy a glass of wine now and then (there were times it was going to be nightly). Seriously. Hormones straight up BRAINWASHED her. It’s a little scary. Like, what part of my memory is going to be erased when those daddy hormones come flooding in? Am I going to take one whiff of that baby’s head and, BOOM, I forget that I find boobies sexy?
Editors note from Kathleen: I literally have NO recollection of saying that I would have a glass every night while pregnant – maybe I was drunk when I said that? However, I do still find wine totally sexy. I will try to enjoy a glass here and there but admittedly, the hormones have informed me that it’s probably best to abstain.
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I’m curious how your partners reacted when you were expecting? Did it become much more real for them once the baby was born? My mom always tells me that my dad was a bit skeptical about the whole baby thing but as soon as my older sister was born my dad said “Can we have another!?”
Here Jeremy is rocking the coolest diaper bag, that isn’t actually a diaper bag, ever. Our friends Justin & Audrey at Shop Good hooked us up with this United By Blue bag. They have a 1-year old boy and thought it was important that new parents like Jeremy and myself have a “diaper” bag that both of us feel comfortable carrying. Diaper bags are notoriously hideous so we feel super lucky to have received such a rad and thoughtful gift. What’s even cooler is that for every United by Blue product sold, UBB removes 1 pound of trash from our world’s ocean & waterways. Check out Shop Good’s bags here – including the OKC Apolis market bag.
(NOTE: This is not a sponsored post and the bag was a gift from friends. Friends who are creative entrepreneurs with a rad-ass store that I will always love to promote.)